Got misgendered and yelled at recently by a trans woman who argued that I’m just a cis person trying to seem special and that I don’t understand what it’s like to really be misgendered and oppressed. She told me that I don’t understand real dysphoria and that I’m just trying to stand out as a “cool dude”. Ironically I felt progressively more dysphoric and angry every time she kept calling me a man. It took every last ounce of willpower in me to stop myself from beating her bloody. Now I’m feeling like shit today and probably will continue feeling like shit tomorrow.
Why are some people so fucking terrible.
The big fallacy with ‘can just conform to cis gender norm’ is that it doesn’t separate us from binary trans ppl at all. Everyone could technically deny their transness and go with cis normativism. But that’s emotionally and psychologically damaging or even impossible. At the very least it’s preferable to live as your true gender. I don’t get why that should be different for binary and non binary trans people.